I'm going to steer clear from all the Parisian news and sentiment. It's horrible and I continue to pray for all the people of France and all those in the world who are victims of conflict and strife.
This isn't a stock post. So if you're looking for a stock or market post, you may as well navigate away because this one will be a little touchy feely. As a trader I am often isolated - only limiting my interactions to my closest friends and family. Having moved to Spain and taken on more students than I normally would, my interactions with people have gone up exponentially. It is due to my teaching that I am reminded of my past exploits because one of my students is experiencing what we in the game call heartbreak. He's a millenial, and like most millenials he is impulsive, emotional, immature and egotistical. But the issue here is not being a millenial but in the matters of love. I think all of us have in some way felt love or at least thought it was love for a person we were genuinely interested in. The problem is as we grow older, we get better at understanding the concept of love. Maybe it's that inexplicable feeling of longing for a person we are fond of. Maybe it's that obsession over a person we like. Again, there's a reason people philosophize over love like it's the biggest mystery in the world. Going back to my student. He recently lost his love to another man. I think this is what is eating him up inside the most - the stark realization of not being enough for a woman who he thought loved him dearly. How many of us have been cheated on? Better yet, how many of us have cheated on our partners? In my playbook, when I get the temptation to cheat on a girl, I automatically break up with her. I'd rather tell her straight up that I no longer find her exciting than be the evil guy to betray her and date another girl simultaneously. However, not everyone in this world shares this 'moral' code. I am not the world's foremost expert on relationships and dating and I wish not to be. I am good at trading and I will stick to that. But, at 35 years, perspective can be a powerful thing. The person I am now has been shaped by years of experience and learning from those very experiences. As I play mentor/big brother to the forlorn, it is amazing how some people really have great difficulty coping with emotions. My student laments about the end of his relationship all the time and yet no matter what I say to him as advice, it will not magically make things better. Call me old fashioned, but in my teenage and 20-something days, dating was a lot less complicated than it is now. Because we didn't have Tinder and all the other apps to facilitate dating, the game really relied on our skills to impress the girls we like. I think that's where the current environment breaks down quite a lot. Here's one thing that really bugs me. A few years ago, I met a younger woman. We went on dates and you know, started seeing each other and stuff. Then one day, she just upped and left. Why? Because apparently she thought the momentum was waning. I will have a different post outlining the wonderful and outrageous reasons women have used on me before. But going back to this, the momentum waning - what does that even mean? I find myself laughing at the fact that in the new age, simply building that important rapport with someone at the beginning of a relationship is no longer significant. People these days seem to give up too easily or worse, are too jaded. Is it so bad to get to know a person really well to serve as the foundation of a lasting and fruitful relationship? Why is it that people now judge a relationship based on how good their partner is in bed? These are the kinds of things I discussed with my student. We do have a generational gap so obviously he may not understand some of the things I've talked about. But it is funny I might add that the new generation these days complicate their lives by simply eliminating the thrill of the chase. Again, I wanted to digress on this post and not talk about the markets for a change. In my dating world - there's the interest, the spark that leads to the chase and then leads to the prize. The prize isn't sex - it's simply being with a person you can build a strong relationship with. But again, that is old-fashioned. Too often, when women really really click with a guy and they give up at the first sign of trouble, what does that really tell you about those kinds of women? Rather I know earlier on that a woman I am interested in can't handle a challenge than find out later when I've invested a lot of time and effort in. Fate is a fickle queen of misery and joy. This is the lesson I am trying to teach my student - to better understand himself, his capabilities and his interests. Only then can he realize what he really wants and to better understand his expectations for his future conquests. I end this post still not an expert on matters pertaining to the heart. But I leave it an enlightened soul - hardened by the painful experiences of the past and invigorated by the love of the women immemorial. I think at the end of the day, you should really just ask yourself, "Does love mean happiness for me or is happiness a state of mind quintessentially tied to love?" Be safe. Be kind. Smile. May all that is holy and good surround you. -G
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